It is inevitable, just as pain is inevitable in the body.
Pain is not the problem; it is our relationship with pain
that defines the quality of our connection.
Are we willing to connect, despite the pain?
Are we willing to let our hearts break together?
Each instance of conflict is an opportunity.
For misunderstandings to be brought into the light.
For recognising the places where we have stopped listening
to ourselves, and to each other.......
A wound has cracked open, and wants some loving attention.
Conflict is inviting us to growth, to know our triggers more clearly. To touch the parts of ourselves we have been pushing down, the thoughts we have been suppressing, the feelings we have been denying, the truth we have been running from......
Love is a risk, a challenge; a journey, never a destination.
And love will destroy every single concept you have about 'love'..........
Conflict is inevitable, but if there is love, we are willing to work through the conflict together, to share honestly, and to listen with the fullness of our being. To feel our pain, and listen to the pain of the other. To let go of our dreams, and fantasies, and futures, and meet each other, almost as strangers, in the Here and Now.
So conflict becomes the fertiliser, and trust can take root.
So conflict is not 'negative', but opportunity and opening.
To begin again. Yes. To begin.
Love as a beginning. Love as a curiosity.
Love as a great mystery that helps us find each other
in the darkness, a great beacon of safety and presence.
Love not as clinging, love not even as letting go,
but love as connection, authenticity, listening,
the courage to be vulnerable.
To hear, and be heard.
To see, and be seen."
~ Jeff Foster
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